- Stop being so nice. Niceness is destroying the fabric of moral society, as niceness is often in opposition to truthfulness. Instead, be kind. Be generous.
We are called to kindness, to not repaying evil with evil.
Being nice is the world’s version of moral uprightness, but should not be a Christian’s. - Don’t tell someone to do anything. Don’t give orders, even at work. Instead, ask them to do the task. You’ll find it will get done, anyway, and they will do a better job, at that.
- Whenever you tell a child that they ought to do something, also explain to them why they should do it the way that you are telling them to.
When the time comes for you to issue them an order that might save their life, they will have implicit trust that what you are telling them to do has rational backing. - Keep your family together, above all. Don’t get the divorce. Don’t convince yourself that the grass is greener on the other side.
A marriage isn’t about love, but commitment, and blood. You sacrifice that commitment, and you sacrifice your honor, and you will find that your blood will hold a grudge against you, for life.
You will only gain freedom. You will never profit in love. - Put God first. Before your wife or children or mother or father. God first, always.
Put your wife or husband before the children. This is God’s order.
What is right comes first. Your mate comes second. The children come third. - Seek Revelation, not to accumulate facts.
Revelation is the key to moral, emotional and spiritual growth. Revelations have transformative value. And what is best, is that they present knowledge in the most forceful and impactful way possible.
Advice can sway someone off a bad decision, but only if presented with persuasive power. Epiphany and revelation supplies a knockout punch of persuasive power.
Get revelation. Seek it out as if it was an invaluable metal. Then share it. Because all wisdom is birthed out of revelation knowledge.
Facts are but nails and screws that hold theories together. Revelation is the moment of inspiration for the schematic itself. - Get a career, not a job.
If you are going to have children and get married, a job no longer cuts it. Leave the shelf stocking to the college students. Instead, have your eyes on accumulating flocks and herds, like the great biblical men of old.
The left has taxed us so much that having a job simply leaves you at the mercy of the government. You are a slave to their social safety system.
Seek a career. You will know you have a career when you can take a week off any time you want, at a moment’s notice, and attend an urgent family matter. Otherwise, you just have a job.
Category: parenting
Lying awake in bed the other night, a crazy thought occurred to me, almost as if it was given to me from on high.
The problem at hand was today’s youth. Why are they so woke? Why are the men so feminine? Why are they taken by socialism, by the draw of authoritarianism, by the pull of communist ideologies? And was my generation like this, too?
I thought back to my generation. They call us gen-x.
I don’t look back with nostalgia. I had some good times, drank all night, attended rock and heavy metal concerts, moshed in insane pits, committed petty crimes, did drugs and slept with loose stoner chicks. I had some fun, some good times, but there were also really dark times, and serious moments of existential discontent.
I looked at us, and how we had turned out, and wondered what was wrong with us. Why were we so disaffected? Why so rebellious against everybody and everything? Why did I have friends who attempted suicide?
So, what was wrong with all of us?
The other night, it occurred to me that we were denied an historical and ages-old initiation into adulthood and manhood. We were forced to retain juvenile characteristics and traits right up into our 30s. Perhaps, the problem is that — we were never allowed to take a natural step in our lives that previous generations assumed without any fanfare or effort.
We were in the prime of our health. We were never going to possess a comparable reservoir of physical and mental energy ever again in our lives. And we were lost. Unfulfilled. We all felt incomplete and less-than what we should have been.
I think a lot of us mistakenly attributed this to depression or malaise or some sort of spiritual issue.
But now, I look back, and the problem appears more glaring, and much more simpler than all of that.
We were like fishes out of water. We were like ants tumbling in space. We were not living the life that human beings had been accustomed to living for a hundred thousand years or more. And we had been brought up in inhumane conditions, not conducive to human maturation.
Yes, we weren’t living the lives of human beings.
Throughout history, the fact is, most 21 year old men were already attached to a woman, and if not married, then understood who he was going to marry. Many had a child already. By 25, they had families, responsibilities, careers, farm, land, a house.
Many 25 year olds today are sitting in their mother’s basement playing video games.
This is a tremendous waste of potential energy. By this age, a man had a child, or two, and was busy from day until night working on accumulating his flocks and herds. His life had purpose, meaning, and every move that he made was imbued with value and great import.
The psychological effects of the situation as it is today are devastating. You have fully matured, grown man, of military age, ready to work, who are staring at their navel a quarter of the time, and playing video games the rest of the time. Sex with their partners has been reduced to a sterile form of mutual masturbation. It has become a pleasure activity, like parasailing or hang-gliding. Sex has become gamified, and a far cry from its natural, original reproductive purposes.
So what we have, are young men and women sidelined as human animals. They are outside the perimeter of what it means to be a homo sapien, as we were known for 200,000 years or more. They are in a kind of social prison, as doctors and general practitioners prescribe birth control to young women, in their reproductive prime, in record rates.
I know, for myself, I wish I had chosen to have children much earlier in my life. It doesn’t make sense to have children at the age of 35 or older. Your prime has passed. Your energy levels have been reduced. A woman’s fertility levels have dropped by more than half.
All of that energy that these grown men are exhausting on video games, on play-realities, all of it is there for a specific purpose– to be able to work from morning until night in order to raise up a family around himself. To be able to work two jobs, if necessary. To be able to work two jobs and still have energy to have sex with your wife at the end of the day.
Desperation is the greatest motivator. This has been true for ages. A man with mouths to feed, even without skills, even without wisdom, will find a way to succeed. He has no other choice.
Men must marry younger. Men and women must realize that society is crumbling because they have strayed too far from the natural order of things.
The media has them seeking for love, and not for family. When love has nothing to do with anything, and “falling in love,” which they have been hoodwinked into seeking, is not even something that can be found, but rather, something that kicks in naturally when you spend time with a chosen mate. It is part of a process, and not an end in itself, or a thing to be sought out.
But to the point: birth control and the over-prescribing of it is connected to all of this. Our young men are not allowed to be men, not allowed to be providers, restricted from having children in the natural, god-ordained way, to grow into fathers, to start families, to mature into godly, responsible men.
So they are still within the comforts of the womb, in many ways. They don’t ever have the opportunity to escape the maternal influence. They do not know God, because God is a father. They cannot grow closer to God as long as they remain within the sphere of the maternal perimeter.
A woman’s right to choose who she mates with, viewed as a great feminist victory, has had a destructive influence on society at large, has led to the feminization of men, almost completely, as they seek to please the woman, and spend their energies seeking to become attractive to the woman, instead of seeking to please their father, God. No wonder they cannot hold together marriages and their families, as they are not morally equipped for the job.
They are in the gym 5 days a week, artificially inflating their body to represent themselves, falsely, as men who possess the valor of working the field, of owning enough crops to feed a healthy brood. They seek to reflect the visage of the woman, physically, mentally and emotionally, to mimic her in appearance and in temperament.
The men, now having been raised by their mothers, have taken on the anxieties and emotionalism of their mothers, instead of inheriting moral values from their fathers. They do not know that self-control is true strength. They do not know that men must maintain their moral integrity, at all costs.
They were never told that the woman never really knows what she wants, as is evidenced by the divorce rate, as is reflected to us as of old in the garden of Eden story. She had God as a friend. She had her husband, Adam, as lover and mate. She had everything she could need. But she took the shiny apple in hand and chose to heed a foreign voice, that of the serpent, who promised her immortality, knowledge, self-sufficiency and power.
The story of the garden isn’t about the fall of man, but the elevation of the woman. Man betrayed God for the woman. The woman betrayed man for the allure of knowledge and power.
Thousands of years later, nothing has changed, except the problem has grown worse.
It sounds ugly, what I am pointing out. It sounds wrong to even say it. But the evidence of this phenomenon is everywhere today. It is so bad, so ingrained now in our society, that we are almost completely blind to what has occurred.
Women are now permitted to kill their unborn babies without compunction. A crime that used to lead to stoning or exile has been repackaged as a moral right.
80% of divorces are initiated by women. They abandon their husbands, and break their children’s young psyches, causing untold and deep trauma, for the sake of convenience. Large numbers of their children suffer abuse under boyfriends that come and go, or cruel, hairy stepfathers.
Women today are even given the children, even after treachery, after adultery, after abandonment of their vows, when in old days, this was unthinkable. Why would any sane and reasonable and conscientious person give children to a woman who has proven herself disloyal, immoral, treacherous and selfish? It is almost inconceivable that this is the social program that men are subject to today.
Women commit adultery, and no charges are ever brought to bear, though many laws against this evil exist on the books all across the country. In fact, the courts reward them with custody, handing over the children to the weaker vessel, who has just failed her greatest moral test.
The truth is, the prisons today are full of men, when they should be full of women. Every female-specific crime has been decriminalized, one by one.
Men have been sacrificed in the name of freedom, and feminism. They never had a chance, being raised by their mothers, and without fathers–the father having been exiled from the home.
The fact of the matter is, when godlessness began to run rampant, and God died, man died too, and has become a mere accessory to women.
And because many men are now raised by women to think and act like women, there are barely any god-fearing men around to dare to point out this evil.
This is now a woman’s world, and it is quickly going to the shitter. Men gave up their birthright, and have nobody to blame but themselves.
I was thinking last night about how to deal with a distant daughter or son. I have two daughters myself, and sometimes children will go through phases. They may become distant, even manipulative, or seemingly aloof or disinterested in almost any kind of interaction with their parents.
I was thinking about the frustration a parent feels in this case, and actually know it well. You feel hurt. You would die for this child, give your life for her or him if it came down to it.
But she has her face buried in a phone all day. She ignores instructions, requests, even greetings. Maybe she has a hundred excuses for why she cannot talk right now or do some simple task.
Maybe the parent will become so frustrated that they begin to feel their heart hardening against the child. The parent feels dishonored, disrespected, and plainly dissed.
I feel like God spoke plainly to me about this subject, and it was a simple and short message.
We have to remember that we too have a heavenly Father. We have, at times, disrespected Him. We have ignored Him for weeks on end, even years, sometimes decades. We too have had our head buried in child-raising or a career or a relationship or a pet sin. We have at times been rebellious, cold, undeserving of his love and the great gift of existence that he has given to us.
We are hypocrites if we complain about our children’s inattention.
Once we realize that we too have been distant children, we also realize that the answer to the problem we are facing is grace, mercy, and unconditional love and patience. We must be patient with them. We must wait for them. We must constantly let them know that we are always there for them. We must be ready to receive their love and attention back at any time.
Of course it is our instinct to grow cold against those who are hurting us. We must never allow that to happen. We must always remember the unlimited grace and mercy our Father God had in dealing with us, and model our behavior after Him.